Cosmic Fireball {Merging of 2 starrs}

171017-NeutronStar-FullColliding neutron stars have confirmed theories about gamma-ray bursts and the origin of gold and other heavy elements in the universe. Michael Lucy reports.

via Cosmic fireball sheds light on source of gravitational waves — Cosmos Magazine


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Basically, the foundation of all philosophy is mankind’s innate curiosity to gain an insight into his remote past, to establish the innate purpose of life and to attempt to create models for the future of mankind resulting from a keen study of the past and the present. However, the depth and quality of any philosophy […]

via The philosophy of philosophy — The Essence Within

A Mother’s Very Personal Story Of A Family Living With PANDAS — Edge of Humanity Magazine

Photographer Lorena Turner is the Edge of Humanity Magazine contributor of this intimate documentary. To see Lorena’s body of work click on any photograph. My son was born around 5pm after a long and very difficult labor. The TV in the hospital room paralleled his birth with coverage of the rescue effort […]

via A Mother’s Very Personal Story Of A Family Living With PANDAS — Edge of Humanity Magazine

4 Surprising Facts About the Universe We Just Discovered in a Cosmic Breakthrough — TIME

News from space always arrives late — and in a discovery announced Monday, that meant 130 million years late. It was that long ago that two neutron stars in Galaxy NGC 4993, in the Hydra constellation, spiraled in toward one another and collided in a titanic eruption, sending out waves of energy that literally shook…

via 4 Surprising Facts About the Universe We Just Discovered in a Cosmic Breakthrough — TIME

52 Questions To Ask If You’re Ready To Really Get To Know The Deepest Parts Of Someone — Thought Catalog

Benjamin DaviesPersonal 1. What is the darkest thought you’ve ever had? What about the darkest thing you’ve never told anybody? 2. Is there something out there, a thought, an idea, a current event, or a fear that you find deeply unsettling? 3. What would you consider to be your deepest fear? (This question can be…

via 52 Questions To Ask If You’re Ready To Really Get To Know The Deepest Parts Of Someone — Thought Catalog

Narcissistic Love Pattern: The recycler


I am often asked, “Will my narcissistic ex come back to me again?” I can reassure you that there is one type of narcissist that almost always returns.  I call them “the recyclers.”

“Recyclers” can be men or women.  What they have in common is that they tend to cycle through the same set of lovers over and over again.  Unlike many narcissists, people with this narcissistic love pattern tend to avoid confrontations and they value being with someone predictable over the novelty of a new conquest. I think of them as “sequential monogamists.” While they are with a person, they are faithful; but as soon as they become bored or narcissistically wounded, they move on to the next available person in their group.  Over time, they assemble a collection of undemanding lovers who are willing to take them back repeatedly.  If no one drops out, this pattern can go on forever.  Eventually, most of the lovers realize that there are others in the group, but they either become resigned to the situation or have their own reasons for accepting this type of intermittent relationship.

Example: Robby

Robby had an interesting collection of women: Three had never been married, one was divorced, and the other lived with what she described as a boring, older husband.  Unlike many narcissists, Robby liked women around his own age and enjoyed their companionship.  The women liked Robby because he liked them and also because he was very adventurous and brought excitement into their lives.  He liked his women agreeable and predictable and his life uncomplicated and spontaneous.  He would suddenly get it into his head that they should both go to Las Vegas for the weekend, he would buy airline tickets immediately, and then they were off on an adventure together.  And, if he got bored in Las Vegas, he simply arranged for them to move on to some place new.  Robbie recycled places in the same way that he recycled women—Las Vegas led to New Orleans, which led to Big Sur, which might lead to Hawaii. Robbie did not really care which of the women he was accompanied by, as long as he got whatever he wanted from the experience.

  • Why do recyclers move on?

If “recyclers” value predictability and monogamy, you may wonder: “Why do they move on at all?”  The answer is that they suffer from the same issues as other people with narcissistic personality adaptations (I prefer the word “adaptation” to “disorder”):

  • Narcissists lack “object constancy.”

“Object constancy” is a psychology term for the ability to maintain your positive feelings for a person (including yourself) while you are feeling frustrated, hurt, angry, or disappointed by the person.  It also includes the ability to maintain your emotional connection to the person when he or she is not physically present. A lack of “object constancy’ is considered to be one of the hallmarks of a personality disorder.

Because “recyclers” lack “object constancy,” when they become narcissistically wounded by their current lover, they lose all their positive feelings towards the person. Rather than staying and trying to work out the issue, they simply leave, and move on to one of the other lovers in their group.

As each lover in turn disappoints or angers them, they move on again…and again.

  • People are interchangeable

Narcissists often see people, even those that they profess to love, as interchangeable.  As one beautiful narcissistic woman said to me: “If he doesn’t give me what I want, I can always find another who will.”

Another man told me very frankly that “people are like hamburgers or tissues to me.” I need them for what they can do for me.  Most of what people call “love,” I see as convenience.”

The reason “recyclers” can move on so easily is that they are not at all concerned about the feelings of the lovers involved.  They do not spend a minute imagining anyone else’s pain but their own.  If they give the issue a thought, they simply tell themselves one of the following:

If they cared about me staying, they wouldn’t do (fill in the blank).
They deserved it.
What was all that fuss about? (After the person started crying and begging them not to leave).

  • If their status rises, they may decide to “upgrade” their lovers

As people are basically interchangeable to narcissists and narcissists are low on empathy, some “recyclers” choose a new group of lovers when their status changes for the better.  They want someone on their arm that reflects their new higher status. Think of all those rock stars who seem to marry ever younger versions of the same blond woman.

Example—Diane the lawyer

Diane was beautiful, smart, and a rising star at her law firm.  As she became more successful and started dressing in Chanel suits and Ferragamo shoes, she decided that she needed to upgrade her men as well. Previously, Diane had managed to remain on good terms with most of her exes and had developed a group of men she cycled through who were almost always happy to have her back in their life, however briefly.  Now she was meeting new, higher status men who could afford the Brioni suits to match her Chanel.  She liked being seen with them and gradually started to integrate these new men into her rotation. Within a year, Diane had developed an entirely new set of lovers and then simply stopped responding when a man from her old, less affluent group called her.

The last word:  If your narcissistic ex-lover keeps returning to you only to leave yet again, perhaps it is time to ask yourself: “Do I want this person back in my life on these terms?” It is your choice if you want to get back into the rotation now that you know that your turn lasts only as long as your narcissistic ex is perfectly happy with you.

This article is based on three of my posts:

  1. Do Narcissists ever discard people permanently (12/13/16)
  2. Do Narcissists return to their former victims (12/5/16)
  3. Do Narcissists quickly forget their exes? (1/5/17)

Guide Profile: Fly Fishing Arkansas with Drew Friday — The Venturing Angler

Drew Friday is a fly fishing guide in Arkansas who guides some of the best trout water in the state. In addition, his region is home to a range of other species. Friday recently sat down to take on some questions for the Venturing Angler: Why do you guide where you do? I was born […]

via Guide Profile: Fly Fishing Arkansas with Drew Friday — The Venturing Angler

7 Spooky Real-Life Stories That’ll Give You Nightmares For Days — Thought Catalog

Andrea BoldizsarWe’ve already been down this road. Last year I shared my family’s true-to-life ghost stories, where almost each member personally experienced something spooky, including my own traumatic ordeal. As I mentioned then, belief and sensitivity in the supernatural is common in South East Asian culture. Thus I would now like to share with you…

via 7 Spooky Real-Life Stories That’ll Give You Nightmares For Days — Thought Catalog