11 Things That Happen When You Search For Wholeness Within Yourself Instead Of Another Person — Thought Catalog

Meireles Neto1. You discover that you were always whole, always complete, and never lacking on your own. Searching for wholeness within yourself means that you stop relying on others to fill you or complete you. Instead of falling into a relationship with a significant other to find meaning, you look for meaning within yourself, within…

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What It Means To Love Someone Who Struggles With Loving Themselves — Thought Catalog

Elizabeth TsungI have to tell you, I’m difficult to love. The fact that it is taking me quite some time to learn how to love myself means that it’s not going to be a walk in the park for you to love me. I have mustered every ounce of courage to teach myself the essence…

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“When I chose to let you go.” — Red Skies over Paradise

»When I chose to let you go, there was no great moment of triumph. There wasn’t an earth-shattering epiphany that changed my life, where music played and the universe conspired to bring everything together for good. There was no conflict, no turmoil and no struggle. No internal argument. No weighing of pros and cons. No […]

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A Terrible Trio — Knowing the Narcissist

1. There is me. I am the fire. All through your involvement with my kind you will be worked into a triangle. There will be one major triangle, smaller triangles, intersecting triangles and then triangles within triangles. Many people know to look out for our cycle of narcissistic behaviour but they do not always realise…

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The predictability of narcissists — Undoing Abuse

TW: narcissistic behavioral patterns with real-life examples; photo of 45th POTUS One thing about narcissistic abusers is that they’re maddeningly predictable – and very difficult to change.

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Victory Over Bitterness — The Shower of Blessings

In my counseling experience, I have seen many people get stuck in situations of anger and resentment. I came across this article by Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. and the following is a summary. You may find the original article at Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/evolution-the-self/201501/don-t-let-your-anger-mature-bitterness Don’t Let Your Anger “Mature” Into Bitterness, by Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. “Bitterness […]

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How to Defeat a Narcissist — Author Janell Hihi

How to Defeat a Narcissist The term narcissist is being overly used by people desperate to find closure in a relationship that didn’t work out and quite frankly not meant to be. The goal of this blog is to learn how to distinctively recognize a narcissist before you loosely throw around the term. Not everyone […]

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How The Narcissist Creates an Army of Defenders by Playing the Victim Role — Author Janell Hihi

Victim playing (also known as playing the victim or self-victimization) is the fabrication of victimhood for a variety of reasons such as to justify abuse of others, to manipulate others, a coping strategy or attention seeking. – Wikipedia The Narcissist is master manipulators. They appear to be normal people who go to work every day, walk their dog, take […]

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How does the narcissist fool people who’ve known them for years? — The Faces of Narcissism

My ex narcopath has a terrible reputation…but he also has quite a few people who have known him for years and think he’s great–people who swear up and down that I must be lying about the abuse. This boggles my mind! The guy gets in trouble all the time for raging, bullying, violence, and more. […]

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There is no “one” real person inside of the Narcissist that is fully functioning or normal but instead there are MANY made up facsimiles of people they imitate to cover up their dark reality to give them a superficial façade and the ability to gain access into the lives of normal and healthy people. The façade you see and ‘believe in’ or perhaps even love was personally designed with YOU in mind but not for a normal relationship or to bond – but instead pull you into the Narcissists psychopathy and abusive lifestyle. — After Narcissistic Abuse

From my Book – From Charm to Harm and Everything else in Between with a Narcissist! @http://www.amazon.com There is no “one” real person inside of the Narcissist that is fully functioning or normal but instead there MANY made up facsimiles of people they imitate to cover up their dark reality to give them a […]

via There is no “one” real person inside of the Narcissist that is fully functioning or normal but instead there are MANY made up facsimiles of people they imitate to cover up their dark reality to give them a superficial façade and the ability to gain access into the lives of normal and healthy people. The façade you see and ‘believe in’ or perhaps even love was personally designed with YOU in mind but not for a normal relationship or to bond – but instead pull you into the Narcissists psychopathy and abusive lifestyle. — After Narcissistic Abuse